Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Of breastfeeding(BF) and formula milk(FM)

2 (TWO!) posts in a day! Wow! havent done this for the longest time. Well, I might be busy on my GoogleTalk but as MundaneMonday has struck me, I need to channel it somewhere. So,here I am, writing and rambling.
Why not on Fb or twitter?
1- I am super kedekut so I dont subscribe data plan for my handphone.
2- Both are blocked at my office.

SUBSCRIBE DATA PLAN?? *shriek* yes my dear lovelies, altho my husband did asked me to change from prepaid to postpaid, but I dont feel like I need to do so.

Okay, whateverrrr
Back to our title; of BF vs FM. A very sensitive topic in my opinion. But somehow I feel that I need to write my opinion on this.

I am currently breastfeeding my LO. LO is now 11 months old already and I am planning to continue breastfeeding her until she is 2 years old the minimum. But whether I can or not, it is up to what Allah has planned for me.

Eh wait, I am not planning to write about my journey. I was about to write my opinion on a FB post that caught my eyes a few days ago.

There was a post that circulate around FB. The post was written by a lady, to express her gratitude to her husband whose 100% supportive when it came to breastfeeding. She wrote that her husband bought her the best breastpump available, gave her presents, helped her with house chores etc. Lucky her to be blessed with such husband.
I have nothing with what she got or wrote. The only thing in my mind is how her post affected some breastfeeding mamas in my circle.
Some friends reposted/shared the post and tagged their husband and wrote "I hope you can be as supportive as this"
"bahagianya kalau dapat suami mcm ni"
etc etc.
I dont know how will husbands react to comment like that, but 1 husband I saw, commented that he will try his best and he dont want his wife to expect that much from him.

From my view, I think that my friend's husband felt his wife is expecting for him to be as wonderful and supportive the the husband in the FB post. Sapa tak nak suami supportive mcm tu kan. tapi in my humble opinion, bajet bajet la. Tak semua org mampun nak support mcm tu, dan setiap suami ada cara dia sendiri.

My husband is wonderful and supportive that sometimes I feel I am not doing my best. He tends LO every morning and night, plays with LO,changes her diapers, packs her nursery bag and sometimes he even washes LO's CD. We might cant afford to buy the best breastpump available in market, but he is very supportive toward breastfeeding.

I think that one should try not to post something that can make others jealous with what s/he have or posting that can make one feels superior than others. macam "tgk aku ni, laki aku bg t his and that. laki korang apa ada?" Maybe the lady just wants to share with good intention. wallahualam.

aku pun harap aku tak di hasut setan dan terbit perasaan ujub,riak dan sebagainya. marilah kita sama2 berwaspada...!

Monday, August 26, 2013

Sighing Out Loudly

Since last week ada satu post dok circulate kat FB. 
Yang advice (advice ka pengaruh?) all working mamas to stop working and stay at home.
Asal usul post FB tu sebab ada nursery kat Putrajaya yang kurung budak2 kat basement. So mcm nak ckp la kat Full time working mamas semua ni supaya berentilah kerja dan jagalah anak2 sendiri kat rumah. 
Esp kalau si suami mampu nak beli tablet beli smartphones dan lain lain.

From view aku, hurm... tak semua mampu nak duduk bersenang lenang kat rumah jaga anak walaupun suami mampu. Macam aku sendiri. I was a fulltime housewife until LO is 9 month old. Then I start to work. Kalau orang lain, mungkin sampai ke sudah la tak berkerja. Suami mampu nak sara IMO. Aku pun tak kisah xde tablet, xde baju baru tiap2 bulan, smartphone skang pun hidup mati hidup aja. Tapi I have to work. Sebab nya, 
1- Aku ada hutang dengan tuan sponsor yang dengan baik hati telah mensponsor hidup aku selama 7 tahun sejak aku habis SPM(aka, tuan JPA) Semua akan dikira as hutang kalau aku tak berkerja once aku dah balik. 
2- Aku dah berjanji berikrar bersumpah akan berkerja berbakti kepada negara selepas aku berjaya menyudahkan pengajian aku. 

Hutang wajib di bayar kan?
Maka terpaksalah orang2 seperti aku ni bekerja sebab nak membayar hutang.
Oh kalau nak cakap "ala suami gaji besar, biar ajalah suami yang bayarkan hutang tu"

Memang boleh. Tapi jadi menyusahkan dia la pulak. I want to help him not to be a burden. 

"Eh eh,kalau ko kerja xjadi burden ke? Rumah tak terurus, anak kena tinggal" Etc etc

Mungkin, tapi I am trying my best and WE are trying our best. My husband is the most supportive person I have ever met. 

"kesian suami ko. balik rumah pun kena buat keje rumah. Siap kena mandikan anak lagi. ape punya isteri lah ko ni"
(Actual comment)
Yep, memang suami saya bantu buat kerja rumah. Dia xde merungut pun. Lagipun, rumah tu rumah dia juga. Anak pun anak dia juga. Kena lah masing2 bertolak ansur, berkerjasama. I tried my best to prepare home cooked foods for him, at least some breakfast and some salad/rojak for him to eat at office. 

I am learning. And I am adapting. Bukan poff in a day terus jadi super mother super wife.

(Eh termelalut)
Anyhow, tak semua ibu mak mommy mama mother bonda MAMPU nak resign dan jadi housewife. Mungkin ada yang ckp, berniaga dari rumah boleh ape kalau nak duit lebih. Tapi tak semua ada bakat untuk berniaga.
So bajet2 lah dalam mengomen. 

Apakata semua bapa abah ayah daddy papa pulak yang jadi full time house husband? rela?